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Considerations by Gary Hambley

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Medical Assisted Dying Bill C-14

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Medical Assisted Dying Bill C-14

June 09, 2016

If you are so inclined, you can email your MP.

I have dealt with chronic pain for more than 27 years. For the most part I have done so well.  What I have is degenerative so it only gets worse.

The Bill was rejected by our Senate and sent back to the sitting Liberal Government amended. My only comment on the process has been, “Get it right”. Getting it right has not happened. Government getting it right involves making decision on who is eligible while avoiding legislation on who can and are to be executed. Not an easy task to perform while negotiating a slippery slope.

There are many of honourable intent that weighed in. I’m certain there are a few of those with less than honourable intent that also contributed to the process.

This is not preaching and is reality. This is consideration that the able of mind and body have to give credence to. If you haven’t dealt with chronic pain be it physical or mental you do not know what it’s like. You cannot fully understand the condition. You cannot be sympathetic because you haven’t lived with it. By living with it I include the families of those who get involved with the direct care of a stricken family member. You can be empathetic and that is appreciated.

This is about me. I shall be as clear as I can so that everyone understands what I think and believe are the differences between expressing, “Just shoot me” on a really bad day and declaring, “It is time to go”.

I had a, “Just shoot me” day yesterday. The weather turned fast. It got cold and damp and I felt it big time! I’ve had days like those before and I’ll have them again. Days like that go with the territory. I don’t just understand the condition. I know the condition because I live it. Every damn day physically and emotionally, I live it.

I’ve had the odd night where I have felt that if I didn’t wake up, that’s okay.

Through all these years I’ve worked with my Doctors. Sometimes my Doctors have thought I’ve been too rigid in the choices I make for myself. There have been times I’ve thought the Doctor wasn’t listening to me.

I have a history that is documented and verifiable. I’ve rejected and accepted the possible and proposed. I’ve tried things and then rejected them. I’ve tried things that have worked, do not interfere with the parameters I’ve defined and continue to make use of. I make the choices for myself and always have. No one else gets a vote.

At some point, if I don’t die first, I will have to make a choice as to when enough is finally enough. I already know what the parameters and conditions are that will trigger the action to terminate my life. Of course I hope that is a decision I never have to make. The choice to terminate your own existence cannot ever be easy or the will to live that humans have would not exist.

I have a set of parameters I’ve created that signal, “It’s time to go”. No one will have to make a decision for me as to whether or not the time has come to go. Someone may have to push that plunger for me, that person, or any person will not have to make a decision on whether or not the time has come.

There are others that have created their own definitive as well so determination to terminate is not left to another person.

Giving the choice to terminate your life to someone else or burdening someone else with that choice is abhorrent to me. This includes legislating Doctors to assist.

Do I believe Doctors should be involved to give statement to an individual’s physical and mental state? Yes I absolutely do. That doesn’t mean a Doctor should be forced by legislation to pull your life plug.

In the moment there is much rhetoric regarding those who are suffering now. I understand and appreciate that fact. Rushing something through to satisfy the Court or those who believe there is immediate need to alleviate the suffering of some is to my mind the wrong thing to do.

Yes the “Assisted Dying” or “Right To Terminate” matter has taken a long time to resolve. Foot dragging also must be discouraged and I believe that was part of the intention of the SoC when they gave a June 6, 2016 date for the legislation to be done.

It’s taken a long time to get this done and it is partly out of fear. Fear of making a mistake.  Fear of being responsible for a wrongful death. I believe to some degree, fear of God in Heaven too. All the things we’ve been taught from our religious and secular belief systems playing a part. No one wants to screw up just in case. I’m just not seeing a problem with those fears and hesitancies as it quite wonderfully displays our humanity.

The Senate removed the, “Near Death Requirement” in the Bill as it was sent to the Upper House. The, “Near Death” requirement was both unconscionable and conscionable at the same time. How’s that for duality! You can read the Senate’s explanation here.

This is a chance to get the Bill all the way right or as close to right as such a Law can be. The SoC could possibly be petitioned for extension.

If a temporary measure needs put in place, do it.

I’ve got myself and my mind right.

For myself and others I demand, even if it takes a bit more time that Government get it right!

If you’re having a hard time getting it right and you obviously are, you let me know and we’ll talk!

G.R. Hambley
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ADDENDUM:

I asked for help to read/proof this story before posting. I’m lucky to have real good help.

If you care to know the root cause of my chronic pain just use the link.

I was asked for my thoughts. Even my thoughts are more question than answer.

I’d have to go deeper in to the Bill as it sits. There was/is serious consideration that assistance be part of a Doctor’s mandate. I see it the same way as a doctor refusing to perform abortion, a matter of personal ethics. My view of Doctor assistance stops at the carrying out of the act.

There are moments when I think if someone shows up and says they choose to opt out you just let them do it. I come by that through experience.

There is a young man, well young by my standards who visits a coffee spot. His name is XXXXXX. He can walk and when he does he needs support and the motion is all herky jerky. XXXXXX has serious speech problems as well. I do not know what the affliction is but I’ve sat with him on occasion and XXXXXX mentally is all there. XXXXXX likes the girls too.  ;-}

People like XXXXXX who may not be able to communicate exactly what they want are the ones we have to protect.

For me, I can take a lot on the physical side and cope very well with the mechanical problems. I don’t know what my physical threshold is. No one does until they hit it. If I lose the cognitive, it’s time to go, period end of story.

Behavioural Science 101

Behavioural Science 101

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LinkedIn Lookup; The Creepy Crawly App

LinkedIn Lookup; The Creepy Crawly App

LinkedIn has managed to creep me out with their new Lookup app. They did a good job of ticking me off previously as I noted in a previous post.

My original thought was to spin this a little different. When I got the email and read through the announcing of LinkedIn Lookup my first response was a creepy kind of disbelieving laughter followed by the; “are you kidding me” kind of laughter.

This is how LinkedIn introduced Sarah and LinkedIn Lookup with pictures.

  • Meet Sarah. When she has a big project with a tight deadline, she starts with LinkedIn Lookup.
  • Using LinkedIn Lookup, she searches for coworkers with the skills she needs to get the job done.
  • Sarah checks their profiles to confirm they’re the right fit, and then contacts them right from the app.
  • LinkedIn Lookup saves Sarah time by connecting her with coworkers who might otherwise be hard to find.

LinkedIn invited me to meet Sarah and I thought it be a good idea if I introduced Sarah to a good friend of mine. I had no idea they’d already met and neither knew that I knew them both, separately. Perfect recipe for disaster huh guys? You can be certain my ears will be burning because you know how women gossip when they get together.

When I introduced Sarah to my friend I said a few other things as well. I can even repeat some of them.

  • You can’t find them in their cubicle and can’t get them with office communications.
  • You’ve tried them at home and even seeing it was work calling didn’t get someone.
  • Do you really think you’ll get a response with LinkedIn’s creep you out app?

This is what my friend had to say about Sarah and I’m hoping with all my heart Sarah doesn’t find out because I wouldn’t want that dear, dear, misguided soul to think I was an unfeeling cad*.

Oh please: ”Meet Sarah…”  Was this written for a 5 year-old?
As Linkedin is utilized by adults, let us use adult-speak:
Sarah has a project.
Sarah doesn’t feel like doing said project.
Sarah realizes that said project has a deadline.
Sarah hears the ticking of the clock wasting away the hours.
Sarah feels the cold hands of Death clawing at her soul (although this has nothing to do with said project; Sarah is neurotic)
Sarah calculates that said project will cause her to miss cocktail hour later that evening.
Sarah does not want to miss cocktail hour later that evening.
Sarah throws a fit over the idea of missing cocktail hour later that evening.
{Interlude- Sarah chips her nail, and goes to manicurist to have it fixed}
Sarah makes a list of lesser co-workers onto whom she can dump said project.
Sarah uses Linkedin Spy App to seek out lesser co-workers.
Sarah does this because she’s a professional.
Linkedin is for professionals.
I am not a professional.
I am not on Linkedin.
But I do like cocktails.
Now Sarah will be able to meet me for cocktails.
The End.

There was one other thing my friend said, “Don’t keep Sarah late; it’s her turn to pay!”

I’m thinking Sarah will be paying large for this projects failure.
I’m thinking my friend is going to be hearing a lot of whining when they meet for cocktails.
I’m thinking there was more whining about the chipped nail than the missing minions.
I’m thinking my friend wasn’t really surprised when Sarah didn’t see the underlings as co-workers
I’m thinking the last pour will be on my friend and it’ll be Sarah in to a cab.
I’m proud of my friend for not leaving Sarah passed out in the lounge’s bathroom.
I hope the cocktail lounge had Sarah’s corporate credit card and my friend didn’t get stuck with the tab.
I’m especially happy my ears weren’t burning so thank you Sarah.

I am not a conspiracy theorist or a paranoid. Let me tell you though, something like another app such as LinkedIn’s Lookup that is designed to track you could get me going to that side of the conspiracy and paranoia fence right quick.

And wouldn’t you know it, as I’m working on this; another request has come in asking me to “participate” in access. This access request, it comes from … Microsoft.

G.R. Hambley – all rights reserved
October 16, 2015

*Cad is not gender specific.

Fashion That Hath “Get Lucky” Charms

Fashion That Hath “Get Lucky” Charms

Torn Jeans Advertising

Ladies to preface, there are ladies that have said I know more about women than they do. There is even one lady that declared me an expert on women after reading a few things I’ve written and some interaction that isn’t public.

I had this conversation the other day with a marketing friend who knows their stuff.

Guys for the most part are of the mind that if you’re gonna talk the talk you better walk the walk. Put up or shut up if you like.

Guys as I’m sure most women know, appreciate visual aids.

No delicate way to convey the message girls so I’m just going to spell it out for you. I would think that with the nature of a female animal you’d appreciate this arrives without cunning and conniving. The straight goods so to speak.

Those TORN JEANS and the great majority of them are torn at the knees, they send out a message that is about as subliminal as a train going in to a tunnel.

Those torn at the knee jeans are about as subtle as the old joke on how do you tell who the head nurse is.

Ladies so you know, those torn at the knees jeans are writing cheques you just may not be interested in cashing.

If you are so inclined, great! If you aren’t inclined, don’t wear them. Either way, that’s okay too because male and female, we all appreciate truth in advertising!

G.R. Hambley
October 09, 2015

Persona, mine

Persona, mine

For those of you that have picked me up here from my transitionu blog you know how I conduct myself.

There is a side of me that is best served by separating church and state so to speak. This side is that separation.

I’m freer to say things differently here. Display in a way here that I wouldn’t there. I should have displayed this image on the “About Me” page here on this blog and that has been rectified.

I’ve had the Cool Teddy Bear persona for a long time. It aint ever going away. I’ve been a smart ass for a long time too. That aint ever going away either. Those who know me know that my smart ass comments are not just me taking shots for the sake of taking shots to bug people. The shot comes from something that has struck a chord in me. I do have a comment for everything. Sometimes that comment is, “Thank You”.

I am bear and teddy bear with a little human in me too

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SPASM #4 – Plan Ahead

SPASM #4 – Plan Ahead

Y’all think I’m kidding. I’m not. Maybe.

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