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Considerations by Gary Hambley

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Memory’s Rusty Springs

Memory’s Rusty Springs

I was reading through my news feeds this morning when a story came up in my scroll about Globe and Mail columnist Jeffrey Simpson retiring.

I was reading through the comments and one individual stated about Mr. Simpson, “Best columnist the Globe ever had.”.

I responded to the comment that yes Simpson has some good stuff but I was more partial to “Richard Needham”. On the wiki for Richard Needham you’ll find this line, “Despite his cranky print persona, he was a kindly man who enjoyed the company of teenage misfits with intellectual pretensions.“.

I said this as well in my comment, “Some even a year or two shy of their teens. I don’t recall being pretentious but I did have a bit of a full of myself streak preteen.

I can tell you first person personal that Richard Needham was indeed all those things. I can tell you I got to go a few places with Richard. He believed youth should have experiences and adventures rent free. That would be rent free as in free of their parents. When you’re the age I was, you just appreciated being free and didn’t see the genius.

Now at my semi advanced age, I very much see the wisdom of Richard’s view and views. Just like the plants need the sunshine and water to grow, youngsters need adventures to encourage their growth.

I recall being in Kitchener for a book signing and winding up with the worst haircut of my life! That one in Kitchener is still the worst ever and this includes a haircut from a few years ago where I got left looking like a muffin head! I really could of done without those two misadventures!

There were chaperones. I recall two very sweet university girls while being on adventure in Montreal. The girls on the trip bunked with the Chaperones while the 6 boys had their own big room.

You know how this is gonna go right?

I learned a couple things in Montreal I forgot I’d learned and no I’m not telling you what they were. I recall meeting Richard the next morning at the Radio Station where an interview with him and his entourage was taking place. I do recall Richard looking at the boys who’d been out the night before, smiling and shaking his head because it was him they called. Relax, it only involved Montreal’s Subway Security and not police.

In my search I found some quotes by Richard. One of them is in the moment poignant with a Canada Post strike looming on the horizon, “The ghastly thing about postal strikes is that after they are over, the service returns to normal.“.

Richard wrote some books, wrote some columns, did some speaking, all on how he saw things. A real decent guy too. You gotta like and admire all that!

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As I head off in to the sunshine to do a little observing of my own that may or my not get written, I wonder what Richard would think of me now.

G.R. Hambley – July 03, 2016
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Medical Assisted Dying Bill C-14

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Medical Assisted Dying Bill C-14

June 09, 2016

If you are so inclined, you can email your MP.

I have dealt with chronic pain for more than 27 years. For the most part I have done so well.  What I have is degenerative so it only gets worse.

The Bill was rejected by our Senate and sent back to the sitting Liberal Government amended. My only comment on the process has been, “Get it right”. Getting it right has not happened. Government getting it right involves making decision on who is eligible while avoiding legislation on who can and are to be executed. Not an easy task to perform while negotiating a slippery slope.

There are many of honourable intent that weighed in. I’m certain there are a few of those with less than honourable intent that also contributed to the process.

This is not preaching and is reality. This is consideration that the able of mind and body have to give credence to. If you haven’t dealt with chronic pain be it physical or mental you do not know what it’s like. You cannot fully understand the condition. You cannot be sympathetic because you haven’t lived with it. By living with it I include the families of those who get involved with the direct care of a stricken family member. You can be empathetic and that is appreciated.

This is about me. I shall be as clear as I can so that everyone understands what I think and believe are the differences between expressing, “Just shoot me” on a really bad day and declaring, “It is time to go”.

I had a, “Just shoot me” day yesterday. The weather turned fast. It got cold and damp and I felt it big time! I’ve had days like those before and I’ll have them again. Days like that go with the territory. I don’t just understand the condition. I know the condition because I live it. Every damn day physically and emotionally, I live it.

I’ve had the odd night where I have felt that if I didn’t wake up, that’s okay.

Through all these years I’ve worked with my Doctors. Sometimes my Doctors have thought I’ve been too rigid in the choices I make for myself. There have been times I’ve thought the Doctor wasn’t listening to me.

I have a history that is documented and verifiable. I’ve rejected and accepted the possible and proposed. I’ve tried things and then rejected them. I’ve tried things that have worked, do not interfere with the parameters I’ve defined and continue to make use of. I make the choices for myself and always have. No one else gets a vote.

At some point, if I don’t die first, I will have to make a choice as to when enough is finally enough. I already know what the parameters and conditions are that will trigger the action to terminate my life. Of course I hope that is a decision I never have to make. The choice to terminate your own existence cannot ever be easy or the will to live that humans have would not exist.

I have a set of parameters I’ve created that signal, “It’s time to go”. No one will have to make a decision for me as to whether or not the time has come to go. Someone may have to push that plunger for me, that person, or any person will not have to make a decision on whether or not the time has come.

There are others that have created their own definitive as well so determination to terminate is not left to another person.

Giving the choice to terminate your life to someone else or burdening someone else with that choice is abhorrent to me. This includes legislating Doctors to assist.

Do I believe Doctors should be involved to give statement to an individual’s physical and mental state? Yes I absolutely do. That doesn’t mean a Doctor should be forced by legislation to pull your life plug.

In the moment there is much rhetoric regarding those who are suffering now. I understand and appreciate that fact. Rushing something through to satisfy the Court or those who believe there is immediate need to alleviate the suffering of some is to my mind the wrong thing to do.

Yes the “Assisted Dying” or “Right To Terminate” matter has taken a long time to resolve. Foot dragging also must be discouraged and I believe that was part of the intention of the SoC when they gave a June 6, 2016 date for the legislation to be done.

It’s taken a long time to get this done and it is partly out of fear. Fear of making a mistake.  Fear of being responsible for a wrongful death. I believe to some degree, fear of God in Heaven too. All the things we’ve been taught from our religious and secular belief systems playing a part. No one wants to screw up just in case. I’m just not seeing a problem with those fears and hesitancies as it quite wonderfully displays our humanity.

The Senate removed the, “Near Death Requirement” in the Bill as it was sent to the Upper House. The, “Near Death” requirement was both unconscionable and conscionable at the same time. How’s that for duality! You can read the Senate’s explanation here.

This is a chance to get the Bill all the way right or as close to right as such a Law can be. The SoC could possibly be petitioned for extension.

If a temporary measure needs put in place, do it.

I’ve got myself and my mind right.

For myself and others I demand, even if it takes a bit more time that Government get it right!

If you’re having a hard time getting it right and you obviously are, you let me know and we’ll talk!

G.R. Hambley
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ADDENDUM:

I asked for help to read/proof this story before posting. I’m lucky to have real good help.

If you care to know the root cause of my chronic pain just use the link.

I was asked for my thoughts. Even my thoughts are more question than answer.

I’d have to go deeper in to the Bill as it sits. There was/is serious consideration that assistance be part of a Doctor’s mandate. I see it the same way as a doctor refusing to perform abortion, a matter of personal ethics. My view of Doctor assistance stops at the carrying out of the act.

There are moments when I think if someone shows up and says they choose to opt out you just let them do it. I come by that through experience.

There is a young man, well young by my standards who visits a coffee spot. His name is XXXXXX. He can walk and when he does he needs support and the motion is all herky jerky. XXXXXX has serious speech problems as well. I do not know what the affliction is but I’ve sat with him on occasion and XXXXXX mentally is all there. XXXXXX likes the girls too.  ;-}

People like XXXXXX who may not be able to communicate exactly what they want are the ones we have to protect.

For me, I can take a lot on the physical side and cope very well with the mechanical problems. I don’t know what my physical threshold is. No one does until they hit it. If I lose the cognitive, it’s time to go, period end of story.

Prime Minister Feminist

Prime Minister Feminist

I am a proponent of emotional presence and an opponent of emotional control.

The Globe and Mail did a story, “The Emotional Complexities of Justin Trudeau

Justin Trudeau is emotionally controlling and that is bad!

His mother’s issues I think created a bigoted side to Justin Trudeau which he promotes. He calls himself a “Feminist”. He thinks everyone should be a “Feminst”. What he did sets people at odds. Anyone with any knowledge would know people being at odds would be the result of taking that position.

Feminist has some nasty connotation that angers men and some women. Another word for that nasty connotation is, “FemiNazi“. We are seeing a piece of that Feminist side right here in Toronto by women continuing their advocacy for the 3 women in the Ghomeshi trial. No condemnation for the acts they committed. They’re women and they are to be believed and the man is guilty, period end of story.

Equalists, men and women alike are looking at the whole of that trial and not the Feminist propaganda.

Justin Trudeau is not about equality, merit and excellence or he would have taken that position. I took that position previously and it has reached a place within me of being etched in stone!

Justin Trudeau is also being compared to his father on “Not” fighting for this country. Justin Trudeau has refused to recant that he knows the root cause of terror when the facts are there that disprove his supposed knowledge. I’m still looking for someone to logically explain how removing your assets from the fight doesn’t assist the enemy.

There are two people I’ve now named as the Prime Minister’s surrogate Mommy and Daddy, Katie Telford and Gerald Butts. I also refer to those two as pilot fish. These two pilot fish swam over from Ontario Premier Kathleen Wynne. Doesn’t that just fill those of you who know the damage Kathleen Wynne has done with foreboding!

Trudeau 2.0 lets Mommy and Daddy speak to caucus as if it were he himself speaking. As the state of affairs currently is, I’m thinking Junior must be busy converting people to Feminism or pandering for the job as head of the United Nations.

Emotional Complexities, we all have them and the vast majority of us don’t expect and demand that others be and take on the dysfunction that we are. Add selfish and delusional to the list of Justin Trudeau’s, “Emotional Complexities”.

G.R. Hambley ©
April 1, 2016

 

Privacy Or Lack Of , Anyone Surprised?

Privacy Or Lack Of, Anyone Surprised?

About a week ago I saw one of those FB Quiz listings and the quiz would tell me what words I’ve used most on FB.

It is about words and has a natural appeal to me. I clicked in and the new tab opens to the pretty much usual log on with FB and what FB data you have that you’ll be allowing the app to access.

I have my parameters set pretty tight and I really don’t care if anyone knows my name and what city I live in. Hell I promote those things myself with my online presence. I have two WordPress sites. This one for my more personal commentary on things I find that I feel belong separate from my poetry, art and coaching. Someone or entity wants to promote those sites for me, hey thanks!

My settings are tight and where I go, not many if any come with me. You take me with you on your internet excursions and those looking to follow you back and in to others aren’t going to have a lot of success with me.

With what this app does, it should be self evident as to what it is going to search to build the word list it returns.

The app ran it’s query and returned a blank. I screen captured the return and had a little fun with a friend who is also a teacher. We’d had an exchange about playing a word game. I sent my friend the screen capture and friend responded, “I can’t see them”.

I said, “That’s the point … there aren’t any to see … it returned none”. Friend got a kick out of that and me saying even FB won’t play word games with me.

You can see the screen shot and the bad sentence the app returns as well. The arrow and words in red are my addition to the screen capture. No I didn’t share it on FB.

Stupefied

Today I saw a story on this app in the Toronto Star stating the quiz is a privacy nightmare. This is the headline, “Don’t take quiz that’s a ‘privacy nightmare, tech writer warns”. The piece is a good one and well worth the few minutes of your time to read it.

The entity the story notes has a number of quiz topics and I know this because I went and searched on the named entity. If you care to search out more on the entity you’ll find there name in the story.

Take the time to delve in to your settings on any social media sight and understand exactly what you are making allowable.

Bottom line is this, when you allow access you are not just giving up yourself which should be more than enough consideration, you could also be giving up access to others.

One more thing before I close this off. This is a social media site and I’d be pleased and thankful if you share it around! You can also find me at transitionu.

G.R. Hambley – all rights reserved
November 25, 2015.

Hey Media, It Isn’t Suicide!

Hey Media, It Isn’t Suicide!

Suicide Know Not

I am absolutely disgusted with Media insisting on calling terror attacks, “Suicide Bombing”.

Media refuse to recognize and refuse to use the correct terminology for the attacks and that is a reality.

The attacks are in fact, “HOMICIDE BOMBING“. The attacks are designed to murder with the death of the murderer as an acceptable loss to the cause of other murderers.

The word “SUICIDE ” imparts a far different message than the word “HOMICIDE”!

Share this post, Reblog this post, Go to local and national media sites and post this up on their sites. Keep posting this message on media sites and do it in a way that media cannot just delete your comment. Maybe if enough of us who know the difference between suicide and homicide do this, then media will get the idea and start calling the murderous act what it is, “HOMICIDE BOMBING“.

suicide ~ noun    rare
1. the act of killing yourself
2. a person who kills himself intentionally

No where in the definition of suicide does it reference the deliberate act of taking others with you.

homicide ~ noun    very rare
1. the killing of a human being by another human being

The reference you see for homicide is the only reference to the word in my thesaurus.

G.R. Hambley
November 14, 2015

Behavioural Science 101

Behavioural Science 101

Image 1

Sperm Snake

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Wine

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Please click the link for video viewing if required.

https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=156513940049

Solve the equation

Alas Poor Quoter

Alas Poor Quoter

Verily I testify, thy silent donkey did wend it’s way across my view.

I was doing some stuff this morning and ran in to this profound message image.

willie didnt say it

Me being after all, me, I left a comment for the person who posted this image up.

Shakespeare and this quote. Can’t be found in his works. It doesn’t even sound like Shakespeare. Further I don’t think he’d make such an untrue statement as “Before you write, think”. Anyone who can write and I’m one of them will tell you there are times when you don’t think and just let it flow.
There is thought that this email & social media masterpiece stems from, “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”.
My heart aches from the thoughtless rehashed and WRONG and I fear my expectations that those looking to appear sensitive and profound will take the time to get it right before recirculating will never cease.

I suggested in my comment to the dumb ass that they try this, “Before You” by William Arthur Ward.

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A friend and I had some chatter going back and forth about this shit and our musings included the like and share postings you see. My friend included this image and said this, “Apparently, the attached pic had been going around Facebook for a while, shared by Christians and other religious folk without them realizing who the man is in the picture“.

My friend said more and I’m not going to share what else was said about the image or our conversation. I’m reasonably certain this doesn’t surprise my friend in the least. Why am I not sharing? Because it’s none of your damn business which is also a rant for another day.

Who-Am_I-01~.~.~.~.~

There is an expression that many know and it is, “Everything happens for a reason”. I’ve always seen those that run that expression out as defeatists and not the kind of people that understand acceptance.

I saw a response to the “Everything happens for a reason” on an image sometime ago and I believe I have that response correct and am happy to share it with you, “Sometimes the reason is because you acted stupidly”.

G.R. Hambley – all rights reserved
October 20, 2015

LinkedIn Lookup; The Creepy Crawly App

LinkedIn Lookup; The Creepy Crawly App

LinkedIn has managed to creep me out with their new Lookup app. They did a good job of ticking me off previously as I noted in a previous post.

My original thought was to spin this a little different. When I got the email and read through the announcing of LinkedIn Lookup my first response was a creepy kind of disbelieving laughter followed by the; “are you kidding me” kind of laughter.

This is how LinkedIn introduced Sarah and LinkedIn Lookup with pictures.

  • Meet Sarah. When she has a big project with a tight deadline, she starts with LinkedIn Lookup.
  • Using LinkedIn Lookup, she searches for coworkers with the skills she needs to get the job done.
  • Sarah checks their profiles to confirm they’re the right fit, and then contacts them right from the app.
  • LinkedIn Lookup saves Sarah time by connecting her with coworkers who might otherwise be hard to find.

LinkedIn invited me to meet Sarah and I thought it be a good idea if I introduced Sarah to a good friend of mine. I had no idea they’d already met and neither knew that I knew them both, separately. Perfect recipe for disaster huh guys? You can be certain my ears will be burning because you know how women gossip when they get together.

When I introduced Sarah to my friend I said a few other things as well. I can even repeat some of them.

  • You can’t find them in their cubicle and can’t get them with office communications.
  • You’ve tried them at home and even seeing it was work calling didn’t get someone.
  • Do you really think you’ll get a response with LinkedIn’s creep you out app?

This is what my friend had to say about Sarah and I’m hoping with all my heart Sarah doesn’t find out because I wouldn’t want that dear, dear, misguided soul to think I was an unfeeling cad*.

Oh please: ”Meet Sarah…”  Was this written for a 5 year-old?
As Linkedin is utilized by adults, let us use adult-speak:
Sarah has a project.
Sarah doesn’t feel like doing said project.
Sarah realizes that said project has a deadline.
Sarah hears the ticking of the clock wasting away the hours.
Sarah feels the cold hands of Death clawing at her soul (although this has nothing to do with said project; Sarah is neurotic)
Sarah calculates that said project will cause her to miss cocktail hour later that evening.
Sarah does not want to miss cocktail hour later that evening.
Sarah throws a fit over the idea of missing cocktail hour later that evening.
{Interlude- Sarah chips her nail, and goes to manicurist to have it fixed}
Sarah makes a list of lesser co-workers onto whom she can dump said project.
Sarah uses Linkedin Spy App to seek out lesser co-workers.
Sarah does this because she’s a professional.
Linkedin is for professionals.
I am not a professional.
I am not on Linkedin.
But I do like cocktails.
Now Sarah will be able to meet me for cocktails.
The End.

There was one other thing my friend said, “Don’t keep Sarah late; it’s her turn to pay!”

I’m thinking Sarah will be paying large for this projects failure.
I’m thinking my friend is going to be hearing a lot of whining when they meet for cocktails.
I’m thinking there was more whining about the chipped nail than the missing minions.
I’m thinking my friend wasn’t really surprised when Sarah didn’t see the underlings as co-workers
I’m thinking the last pour will be on my friend and it’ll be Sarah in to a cab.
I’m proud of my friend for not leaving Sarah passed out in the lounge’s bathroom.
I hope the cocktail lounge had Sarah’s corporate credit card and my friend didn’t get stuck with the tab.
I’m especially happy my ears weren’t burning so thank you Sarah.

I am not a conspiracy theorist or a paranoid. Let me tell you though, something like another app such as LinkedIn’s Lookup that is designed to track you could get me going to that side of the conspiracy and paranoia fence right quick.

And wouldn’t you know it, as I’m working on this; another request has come in asking me to “participate” in access. This access request, it comes from … Microsoft.

G.R. Hambley – all rights reserved
October 16, 2015

*Cad is not gender specific.

Don’t Put It Back!

Don’t Put It Back!

Damn got a cold.

I got a cold. I got a fair idea where I got it too. I’m thinking I got it courtesy of some individual that picked up the wrong size lid for their coffee and then put the lid back.

Don’t be putting the lid back when you get the wrong one. Don’t be putting extras back if you happen to get a couple or three lids instead of just one. Don’t be putting the lids back on the stack if you’ve dropped a few on the floor.

Stupid and or thoughtless behaviour because what ever crap you have on your hands or that was on the floor is being passed on to someone else.

One of the coffee spots I frequent stands their patio umbrellas right beside one of the racks that holds the lids. The umbrellas do get bumped and the particulate that is on the umbrellas falls on to the lids. Now that’s appetizing!

I go to the second lid down if the rack not by the umbrellas has someone using that station.

I’m thinking I should just take 2 all the time and toss the top 1 of the 2 in the trash.

G.R. Hambley
October 05, 2014

Street Theatre – I Act Too

Street Theatre – I Act Too

Scene Setting
Outside Coffee Spot

Characters
Bear and Well Known Crazy F***** ah um err FELLOW! Yeah that’s it, Well Known Crazy Fellow, (WKCF).

ACTION!
WKCF walks up to Bear and stops

WKCF says – Hello

Bear looks at WKCF, – says nothing

WKCF says a little stronger – HELLO

Bear says – Hello

WKCF says – Can I ask you a favour?

Bears staring at WKCF says – no

WKCF adopts unbelieving didn’t hear you correctly look and says – Pardon Me

Bear still staring and with more emphasis says – NO

WKCF takes step back and says – You say that so emphatically

Bear says – You betcha

Camera follows as WKCF muttering walks off down street exiting scene

Camera pans back to Bear standing and smiling

FINI